Archive for September, 2011
September 30th, 2011 by admin
Rock and roll fans don’t usually think of their favorite stars as parents while they watch them perform on stage, but many of them are. Some of the older rock stars are even grandparents. Since most of them started playing in bands while they were in their teens, it is unusual to find any who had children before they became famous. Nevertheless, here are 10 rockers that did rock babies before rocking the stage.
- Rod Stewart – Known for his first hit single “Maggie May” that topped the charts in 1971, Rod Stewart was also known as quite a ladies man despite rumors to the contrary. This rocker’s first child was born in 1963 and he went on to father 7 more, with number 8 born in February of 2011.
- Madonna – Although Madonna didn’t become a mother herself until later in her career, she did help raise her younger siblings after her mother died of cancer. It’s hard to think of her as the responsible big sister, but her rebellious nature didn’t manifest itself until after her father remarried.
- John Lennon – After he knocked up his girlfriend Cynthia, John Lennon was the first of the Beatles to get married. Their son Julian was born in 1963, just as the Beatles’ fame began to skyrocket.
- Lenny Kravitz – Known for his retro style of rock, Lenny Kravitz’ career really started to take off in 1991 when his daughter Zoe was already 4 years old. Zoe’s cradle was definitely rocked in more ways than one during her early years.
- Phil Collins – This rocker is best known as drummer and singer for the band Genesis which also launched his solo career. Phil Collin’s first child Simon was born in 1976, just as his career was getting started, but long before he became famous.
- Otis Redding – Best known for his hit single “(Sittin’ on) The Dock of the Bay”, Otis Redding tragically died in a plane crash at the age on 26. His son Dexter was born long before his first album was released in 1964.
- Gerry Rafferty – The Scottish singer/songwriter Gerry Rafferty rocked the stage with his hit “Baker Street” and many others. His daughter Martha was born in 1970 before he released his first album with the Humblebums in 1971 and she was at his side when he died in January 2011.
- Bob Marley – This reggae rocker is a Jamaican legend. Claiming a total of 11 children from his wife Rita and various liaisons, Bob Marley’s first child was born in 1964. As an infant, Sharon was rocking to the album “The Wailing Wailers” that was released in 1965.
- Tim Buckley – More of a folk rocker, Tim Buckley’s short career began in 1966 and ended with his death in 1975. His son Jeff was born in 1966 when Tim was only 19 years old and now also has a career in music.
- Jon Bonham – The drummer for the legendary rock band Led Zeppelin, Jon Bonham had his son Jason in 1966. Although he was already rocking the stage with other bands at that time, his notoriety began when he joined Led Zeppelin in 1968.
Not surprisingly, many of these rocker’s progeny have gone on to pursue their own careers as musicians. Some of the talent that launched these rock-and-rollers into stardom must get passed on to their kids. Their legendary prowess as musicians and performers lives on in the next generation of rock stars, though some have chosen a different path. The rocker lifestyle is probably not the best choice for raising children, but it has been done.
September 28th, 2011 by admin
Babysitting is a great first time job for both boys and girls. However, not everyone is meant to be a babysitter. Let’s start by looking at the picture picked for this article. If you would give anything to be able to pickup the screaming baby, then you may have a natural inclination towards babysitting. IF however, you want to run (not walk) into another room or want to start crying yourself then those could be signs that you are not ready to be a babysitter. Listed below are ten other signs that babysitting is not for you.
- You Don’t Enjoy It. Like anything you do, if you do not enjoy it, chances are that you will not do it well. Caring for children is not the same as mowing the lawn; you can’t do it half way. If you plan to babysit, you really need to enjoy it as well.
- You Get Frustrated Easily. Not everyone is patient with children. If you find yourself getting frustrated easily around kids, then you may want to find another vocation.
- Children Don’t Seem To Like You. You may enjoy being around children, but if they do not enjoy being around you, it’s going to be a lost cause. Certain kids may need some time to get used to strangers, but if it seems like children in general do not like you, then babysitting is not for you.
- You Do Not Like Being Left Home Alone. Some people do not like being home alone. This isn’t just for teenagers, but adults as well. If you get scared being alone, whether it is daytime or night, you should probably not be babysitting.
- You Are Nervous Around Children. Kids can make some people uneasy, especially babies, if you are not used to them. If taking care of children makes you nervous, then it should be avoided.
- You Think Video Games Are a Substitute for a Babysitter. If you think that setting a kid in front of a video game is a way to keep them occupied, while you do something else, then you are not mature enough to handle the responsibility.
- The Sight Of Blood Makes You Faint. Accidents will happen, and with children, they tend to happen more frequently. If you plan to babysit, you need to be prepared to handle emergencies that may include being able to stop bleeding.
- You Can’t Imagine Changing a Diaper. Diaper changes tend to go with the territory of babysitting. If this makes you queasy, then you should avoid babysitting, at least with young children.
- Your Parents Won’t Let You Babysit Siblings. If your own parents will not let you babysit for your younger siblings, chances are, you are not ready to babysit other people’s children. Babysitting for siblings is great practice, but if you are not allowed there is probably a reason for it.
- You Use Mood Altering Chemicals. Children require constant attention of an alert and responsible caregiver. If you use any chemicals, you should not be left to care for minors. That doesn’t just mean alcohol or illegal drugs, but prescription drugs that can alter your mood as well.
Babysitting can be a very rewarding and enjoyable experience for both the sitter and the children. You do need to keep the items mentioned above in mind, before venturing out into the babysitting world. Remember that not everyone is cut out to be a babysitter, and it is ok, if this is not the right fit for you.
September 25th, 2011 by admin
After a day or two of being stuck indoors, kids often need a way to burn off some of the energy that they normally use up in outdoor play. Here are 10 sports activities that can be adapted for inside the house.
- Balloon Volleyball. All you need for this is a string or piece of yarn, two chairs, and some large balloons. The string or yarn, strung between two chairs, becomes the volleyball net. This game is played the same as regular volleyball, but with the kids on their knees.
- Balloon Foot-Volley. This is the same as Balloon Volleyball, only the players are restricted to an upward-facing crab position, using only their feet keep the balloon in play. Much energy will be burned, and there will likely be many giggles and shrieks to go along with this game.
- Waste-Basket Ball. A small, clean wastebasket and a lightweight ball are all that are needed for this game. In fact, the ball doesn’t even have to be a ball! You can take a thick pair of socks and roll them up, then wrap with enough duct tape to hold them in a round shape, and you have a ball. The basket can be moved around for a shot-matching game, moving the basket into corners or other obstructed spots to allow fancy bank shots or shots around obstacles.
- Balloon Basketball. This game can be as simple as two players sitting and facing each other from a few feet away. A medium-size balloon is the ball, and the hoops are made by the opposing player holding arms in a circle shape in front of his or her chest.
- Hallway Bowling. 10 empty one or two liter soda bottles can serve as the bowling pins, and any sort of small ball can become the bowling ball. The kids can either roll the ball from behind a line, or, if you have a foam ball of some sort, it can be safely thrown at the pins.
- Balloon Football. This is a hands-off game, played on a table. Each team of one or two kids takes a side of the table to defend. A balloon is set in the middle of the table-field, and the two teams try and blow the balloon to the other team’s end of the field. Points are scored when the balloon is blown off the end of the table and returned to the center to start the next play.
- Carpet Hockey. You can use that same sock-based ball used in Waste-Basket Ball. Define an area of a carpeted floor as the hockey rink, with goals at each end. Wrap tape around the corners at the end of two or more paint stirrers, and they can be used as the hockey sticks. The kids play the game on hands and knees. Much entertainment and silliness will likely follow.
- Table Tennis. Also known as ping-pong, this one requires the proper equipment. A ping-pong table, which is usually green and has a low net across the center, serves as the playing field. Then each player will need a ping-pong paddle for serving returning the volley of the ping-pong ball.
- Mini-Golf. Take a yardstick, and tape a large plastic building block on one end. Any small ball can be used in place of a regular golf ball. The kids can set up “holes” made from small boxes or empty cans, and create obstacles to knock the ball around, under, or over.
- Boiled Egg Races. A carton of hard-boiled eggs, a set of table spoons, and whatever obstacles and course you’d like to set up to race around. The kids carry the boiled eggs on a spoon while either walking or crawling through the courses. A Stop watch gives the added dimension of keeping records for fastest time through each course.
All of these sports adapted for inside the house will help keep the kids active and fit, even on those days when it is too hot or cold, or too wet, to play outside. And, they have the added bonus of wearing the kids out for nap or bed time.
September 19th, 2011 by admin
Sibling rivalry has been around since the beginning of time, literally. It can stem from jealousy or even just age difference. It is our responsibility as adults to help kids work through their differences, in a calm and respectful manner. Listed below are ten solutions to constantly fighting siblings.
- Don’t Take Sides. If a child notices an adult taking sides or favoring their sibling, they may start to resent both parties. Remember to be impartial, and look at both sides of the situation.
- Cooperation. Have the kids do activities that require them to work together, rather than against each other. Focus on cooperative games and not competitive ones.
- No Whining. Coach the children, and teach them to use a normal tone of voice when asking for something. If they start to whine, even when talking to a sibling, have them start over and ask again. They are much more likely to share with the other sibling, if their tone of voice is not shrieking or demanding.
- Alone Time. Make sure that each child has an adequate amount of time that they get to spend by themselves. Having a younger sibling that always tags along can get irritating, so make sure that you attempt to provide them time on their own too.
- One-on–One Time. Not only do kids need to have time to themselves, they also need some one-on-one time with their parents and caregivers. Make sure that you are giving each child some undivided attention on a regular basis.
- Negotiate. Negotiating is a valuable skill that will come in handy later in life. Work with the children to learn to share their toys. During the negotiations, have them each express how they feel. This will help the other to see both sides.
- Hold Them Accountable. Avoid letting the “he started it” to set in, and help them to see that it takes two to have an argument. Show them how their actions are not improving the situation.
- Get Them Involved. Start a dialog to help the children see the other person’s point of view. Ask them what they would have done, ask them if what they did was right and ask them how it should have been done differently.
- Role Play. Once they have figured out how the problem should have been handled, have them act it out. After practicing the right way to handle a situation, they will be better equipped if it comes up again.
- Set a Better Example. Take some time to think of how you react to stressful situations. Do you fly off the handle and yell or throw things? If so, how can you expect the children to behave differently? We need to be good role models for kids, and lead by example.
The fact is, siblings will not always get along, and it is the job of their caregivers to help ease them through conflicts. Keep a calm head. Try some of the techniques above, and you will be well on your way to teaching them great conflict resolution skills.
September 16th, 2011 by admin
Long gone are the days when sitters could use physical punishment on kids. Instead of giving them a good whack on the bottom when they deserved it, sitters now have to punish kids in other ways. If a child is not behaving, one discipline option is to take away something they want. The trick is to find out which items are the most effective, so here are 10 things sitters can take away from kids as punishment.
- Television – One item that has been used to punish kids for decades is to take away their television. This tactic can backfire though, because if they aren’t being entertained by the TV, you’ll have to find some other way to keep them occupied.
- Video games – The more modern form of punishment is to take away the kids video games. Some kids are very addicted to their favorite games and will do anything you ask to get back to playing angry birds.
- Snacks – Another way to have some leverage over a misbehaving child is to threaten to take away their favorite snack. Sitters can find out what their weakness is and use it to get control of any situation.
- Toys – Every kid has their favorite toy, so withholding it can give you the advantage. As soon as they decide to behave, they can get their toys back.
- Candy – Usually used as a reward, candy can also be used as punishment. Since too much candy can be the cause of kids getting a sugar buzz and misbehaving, taking it away is probably a good idea.
- Computer – Older children get quite attached to their computers, so taking away their online privileges may be very effective. No more computer games, surfing the web, or facebook until they decide to behave.
- Security blanket – Some kids get very attached to a blanket or stuffed toy that they just can’t be separated from. Take away their blanket and that kid will do anything the sitter wants to get it back.
- Pacifier – Some parents let their kids get attached to a pacifier, so this is another item sitters can use to gain control. Taking their “binkie” away is real punishment for these kids.
- Bedtime story – Most kids really look forward to hearing a good bedtime story before they go to sleep. When kids misbehave sitters can send them to bed without a story to punish them.
- Interaction – Commonly known as a “time out”, taking away the child’s ability to interact with others in another effective form of punishment. After they have time to reflect on their misdeeds, the sitter can then allow them back from banishment.
Sitters will find that taking away various items can be an effective way of getting the desired response. Babysitting can be a very difficult job when kids are behaving badly, and sitters will need to use whatever means are at their disposal to maintain discipline. Finding which items work best for each child in different situations can be a challenge, so there is always a period of trial and error in the process. With patience and perseverance, sitters will find what to take away for punishment and what is just an inconvenience to the child.
September 14th, 2011 by admin
Babysitting exchanges have been around for some time now, and while they may be gaining in popularity, there are some things to be cautious about. Listed below are ten disadvantages to babysitting exchanges.
- Number of Children. If you only have one child, while the others in the group have more than one, you may feel as though you are getting the raw end of the deal. Depending on how your group is set up, you may receive extra credit for the number of children you watch in excess of your own.
- Group Expectations. It may be difficult to find a number of people with the same expectations as you. You may only be looking to have someone watch your kids one evening a week for a few hours, while others may be looking for overnight care or a more structured exchange.
- Personality Clashes. With multiple people watching your children, it is possible that they will not get along with everyone. Depending on your child’s disposition, they may not like being shuffled between different sitters and may thrive better with consistency.
- Misbehaving Kids. We do not expect our children to behave at all times, but when you mix different children from different homes, with different upbringings, it can become difficult. If one of the families has a child that is challenging to take care of, or that doesn’t get along with your children, it may put you in an awkward position with the other parents.
- Different Rules. Depending on what house your children are being cared for in, there may be different rules. This can confuse young children as to what is expected of them.
- Keeping Track. Someone needs to be named secretary to keep track of who is in the group, how many points each member has, along with a schedule. You can resolve this issue by having everyone take a month, or by using a less complex system.
- Training. Not all parents have training for what to do in an emergency. While you may trust your friends, they may not be prepared for CPR. Make sure you check with everyone in your group to see if they have taken any certification classes in first aid.
- Special Needs. If you have a special needs child, you may not be able to use a babysitting exchange. Unless your friends are comfortable with the extra care needed, you may have to find an alternative.
- Handling Problems. There may come a time when someone needs to be removed from the group. Whether the problem is with the parent or child, doesn’t really matter. It can be an uncomfortable situation to handle, and choosing who will perform that task can also be difficult.
- Screening Process. You really do not want to let just anyone into the group. As with any other child care provider, the potential group members should be screened. This can be very time consuming, when starting out.
While there are advantages to babysitting exchanges, you may want to go over the disadvantages as well, in order to determine whether this is a good option for your family. It may be free, but that doesn’t mean it goes without costs.
September 14th, 2011 by admin
Babysitting exchanges have been around for many years. The idea is that you get a group of friends together and swap babysitting duties with them, so that you do not have to hire a babysitter. One night you watch your friend’s kids for them, and on another night, they watch yours. Listed below are ten advantages to babysitting exchanges.
- It’s Free. Probably the number one reason people participate in a babysitting exchange is because it is free. By trading services with other parents, you are saving money by not having to hire a sitter.
- Builds Relationships. You can really strengthen your relationships with your friends by getting involved in a babysitting exchange. You first have to start by finding someone you trust, but that will grow even deeper as you begin to rely on each other to help out.
- Social Interaction. Your child will get plenty of social interaction with other adults, which can prepare them for attending school and having another adult in charge.
- Bartering. Kids can learn the fine art of bartering, while their parents are involved in a babysitting exchange. This can be an important lesson for them to use throughout their lives.
- New Friends. Along with meeting new adults, your children will also have the opportunity to meet new friends, as well. By getting involved in a babysitting exchange, your children will get the opportunity to widen their base of friends.
- Social Life. You will be more likely to get out of the house and socialize when using an exchange, then you would if you were hiring a sitter. This is very beneficial to your marriage, and even your mental health, to get some much needed adult time.
- Adult Care. Some parents may be apprehensive about hiring a teenager to watch their children. With a babysitting exchange, you can feel better knowing that your children are in the hands of a responsible adult.
- No Kids, No Problem. You do not have to limit your babysitting exchange to friends with kids. You can trade services with other people as well. Maybe your neighbor would be willing to watch your children for a few hours a week in exchange for having you mow their lawn.
- Family Bonding. If you set up the exchange with family members, like brothers and sisters or cousins, it is a great opportunity to get to know and bond with your nieces and nephews or cousin’s children.
- No Limits. You are only limited to what the other members of your babysitting exchange agree to. You may only want to have a couple of hours a week out, or you may decide to set it up for overnight sleepovers to give you a larger break.
There are many ways to set up an exchange with your friends. Get your group together and see what works best for everyone. You may decide to start out with a certain amount of tokens to exchange with each other. You may decide to have a group night, where you watch everyone else’s kids, and on the other nights, someone else takes them. Whatever your group decides on, remember to be flexible and open minded, as the needs of the group may change with time.
September 12th, 2011 by admin
Virtually every parent has to face the prospect of leaving their children in the care of a baby sitter. It’s not an easy thing to do. How do you know you’ve chosen the right sitter? How can you monitor the situation? Here are 10 ways that you can monitor your sitter, and have some idea about what goes on in your home when you’re not there.
- I Forgot. The baby sitter has arrived and been filled in on all the necessities, and the kids are settled in for evening routine. You leave for the evening, drive around the neighborhood for 15 minutes or so, and then back home. This gives you opportunity to walk in unexpected and see how things are going, under the guise of having forgotten your bowling socks or some other important item.
- Home Early. This is just another way to arrive unexpectedly and see what goes on in your absence. Most sitters will not complain about ending the evening early, but you should expect to pay the same, as you would have, had you stayed out until the agreed upon time.
- Neighborhood Watch. If you have one or more trusted neighbors, you can ask them to keep an eye on your house and driveway. Give them your cell phone number and ask them to call you and report any unusual or unexpected activity.
- Neighborly Visit. You can ask a trusted neighbor couple to drop in while you’re away, to see what is going on in your home. Mention to the sitter before you leave that this couple sometimes stops by.
- Repeated Phone Calls. You can call the house phone, if you still have one, to ask for updates throughout the evening. This one is not particularly convenient for either you or the sitter.
- Camera Recording. You can set up camera and recorder monitoring systems in key locations around the house. This can be expensive, and some states are studying legislation to ban video recording without the subject’s knowledge, but for the moment, it is your right, because it is your house. One drawback is that you have to sit down and watch it afterward if you want to know what happened while you were out.
- Webcam and Smart Phone. Another way to use cameras to monitor activity in your absence. With current smart phone technology, you can choose to take a look in real time and see what is happening in your home.
- Nonexistent Cameras. You could lie, and tell the sitter that there are cameras monitoring activity in the home. This isn’t monitoring in the strictest sense of the word, but may be effective as a preventive measure.
- Baby Stroller Bumper Stickers. Have you ever seen a vehicle with a sticker on the back that says: “How’s My Driving?” with a toll free phone number? If you have a sitter who takes the baby outside your home in a stroller, you have a similar option. Several companies are selling stickers or plates for strollers, each with a web site address listed for reporting positive or negative babysitter behavior.
- Multiple Combinations. If you are very worried about your babysitter situation, you can combine two or more of the above methods, to assure that all goes well.
Whatever method or methods that you use for monitoring, it is suggested that you limit the monitoring to the first time with a new sitter, and only occasionally after that. The idea is to assure that you’ve hired the right person, so that you can come to trust them and have a good time while you’re out.
September 10th, 2011 by admin
Leaving an infant in the care of a new sitter can make parents a bit nervous. However, if you take the time to find a fully, qualified sitter and give them the proper instructions, there should be no need to worry. Here are 10 tips for hiring a new sitter for an infant.
- Infant care training – Verify that the person has had some training in the care of infants. How to properly hold, feed and care for an infant is not something that just comes naturally.
- First aide training – Check with the potential sitter to find out if they are trained in ‘infant’ first aide and/or infant CPR. Hopefully, those skills will not be needed, but if they are, you will want someone there who knows how to handle an infant during a medical emergency.
- Mature – Infant care should be done by individuals who are mature enough to handle such an important responsibility. Remember that age and maturity do not always correlate.
- Experience – There is nothing that teaches better than experience. A sitter for your infant should have had experience babysitting for other infants or caring for infant siblings or infants of their own.
- References – Ask for references that include other families with infants that the babysitter has cared for. Take the time to make calls to the references given and ask some basic questions about their opinion of this person as it regards infant care.
- Background check – Many babysitter referral agencies do background checks on all their babysitters. This is an especially important item to include for a babysitter of an infant.
- Detailed feeding instructions – Since parents have different feeding schedules and preferences for their infants, it is very important to provide very detailed instructions about how often the baby should be fed, how much it is fed and how to prepare the formula and/or baby food.
- Sleeping habits – Sleeping positions and habits can also vary greatly from one household to another. Instruct your sitter on whether your infant is used to sleeping on the stomach, side or back. Let them also know if you normally rock them to sleep or simply lie them down. They will have a much easier time putting the child down in their crib if they’ll follow the procedures that the child is used to.
- Early arrival – Have the sitter arrive several minutes early for the first babysitting appointment. This will allow you the time necessary to show them where feeding and changing items are located and to go over your instructions regarding feeding and sleep time. It will also give them some time to familiarize themselves with the infant, if they are awake when they arrive.
- Written notes – Don’t depend on your memory and the memory of your sitter when it comes to all the specific details related to caring for your infant child. Write everything down ahead of time. This will help eliminate concern on your part that the sitter may not have understood something or that you might have forgotten to tell them something. Include your cell phone and any other emergency contact numbers with those written instructions.
There are lots of reliable, experienced babysitters for infants. You just need to do a little extra work to make sure that you have found one of those and that you also do your part to provide them with the information they need to properly care for your child.
September 8th, 2011 by admin
For the purposes of this article, I’m combining traditional maids and maid services. If you’ve never thought about it, folks that do this type of work sometimes have to clean some pretty disgusting or shocking things. Some of this material comes from research; some of it comes from personal knowledge through people with whom I’ve been acquainted. Perhaps after reading this article, you will have a higher level of respect for the people that clean up after some of us. You may also be able to tell why many of us would rather be a babysitter than a maid!
- Rain Gutters. One of my mother’s friends, a person of some wealth, had two maids on her home staff, and one of their jobs was cleaning the rain gutters on the outside of the home. I would not have expected this to fall under the list of duties for a maid.
- Outside Dog Kennels. This same person raised dogs as a hobby, and expected the maids to put on rubber boots and gloves and clean out the kennels as part of their house cleaning duties. Again, I was a bit shocked to find that this would be expected, and that a maid would agree to this when being hired to clean in a home.
- At-Home Births. When my youngest child was approaching his emergence into the world, we considered an at home birth with a midwife attending. In the process of speaking with local midwives, we found a maid service that would come in and clean up after the birth. I was mildly shocked to discover that there was a commercial maid service for this sort of work.
- Unsavory Things in Motel Rooms. In my earlier life as a traveling salesman, I got to know some of the maids that worked in motel rooms, and was somewhat shocked to learn about some of the things that people will leave behind for maids to clean up. I heard of feces on floors and walls, of used condoms left on bedside tables or on tops of televisions, and of, in one case, the remains of what appeared to be a ritualistically slaughtered chicken.
- Fish Processing Room. A motel in which I used to stay on a regular basis, was located in a popular fishing area, and had a place for anglers to butcher and process their catch of the day. I was more than a little surprised to learn that cleaning up after the anglers was included in the duties of the motel room maids.
- Crime Scene and Suicide Sites. I knew a person who worked for a maid service that contracted with law enforcement agencies to provide cleaning services in places where people had been killed, or had killed themselves. I don’t know why I was shocked at this; someone has to clean up these sites. I just hadn’t thought of it as maid’s work.
- Illegal Drug Factories. Another surprise for me was that this same maid service company provided cleanup of homes where things such as methamphetamine had been illegally manufactured. This is truly dangerous work for maids, considering the hazardous chemicals involved.
- Commercial Cooking Hoods. In researching this article, I found a company that describes itself as a maid service, and includes on its list of services commercial cooking hood cleanup. This one surprised me, as I wouldn’t have thought of this as work for maids. It can be greasy and unpleasantly aromatic work.
- Industrial Boilers. Found on the web site of a company advertising commercial maid services. This is another one that I would expect to fall under the services of a different type of company, not a maid service. I’m picturing a person in an apron and old style maid’s cap, climbing into a commercial boiler with a steel brush. Maybe I have too vivid an imagination.
- Parking Lots and Garages. On another commercial maid service web site, I discovered that this company’s maids would clean parking garages and parking lots. Really? Maids cleaning parking areas? I never would have guessed it.
Maybe you aren’t shocked to learn about some or even any of these things that maids will clean up, but I certainly found them shocking to learn of. Maybe you will think I’m easily shocked or surprised. If so, I’d love to find out what you actually would find shocking for maids to have to clean.